Wallow in it!


Like grief, the harder you try to run from it the more it descends upon you. I always use the example of the Chinese bamboo finger puzzle. You put a finger in each end of the bamboo tube and when you try to pull out, the tube contracts leaving you trapped. The trick is to push in, release the contraction and free yourself. Sounds counter-intuitive but it works. Sometimes our businesses suffer severe trauma that convince us we’re trapped. Truth be told, we are.

Like air turbulence in a plane, a quick bump and it’s over. Sometimes it’s a long slow, agonizing process to get back on your feet again. Then, whether you like it or not, you’re forced to face your fears and insecurities head on. And that can be a good thing as long as you don’t have to sell your house and buy an ice cream truck.

Nobody hates mushy crappola business talk more than me. I actually gag when I hear some of the re-hashed bromides these so-called business gurus spew forth to make a few bucks off your bewildered ass. Truth is, is when you’re in the middle of a shit storm is when the lessons get learned as long as your taking notes and not xanax. Lean into it. Get yourself all dirty and nasty and wrestle that pig to the ground.

If, and that’s a big if, you survive, you will get those Clint Eastwood – John Wayne, Chinese eyes with lots of notches on their belts and stories they won’t ever talk about.

You will be missing some things you didn’t need in the first place like a trusting nature and a gullible outlook. In its place you will gain a healthy cynicism and a ground in tendency to trust your intuition. Always. Stay awake during your trial by fire lest you miss the whole learning experience. Wallow in it!

I am gritting my teeth while writing this. My stomach hurts and I want to put my hands on someone. I want to wreak some havoc and exact my revenge. I don’t think I would be a pleasant cell mate so I will forego the urge for destruction. Instead, I have a notebook in every room of my house to capture my frantic, vengeful, thoughts, feelings and primal urges. What your reading now is part of my wallowing.

 I’m not looking forward to the day when this will end because I don’t know if it will. All I know is this is where I am right now. Now! Let’s see who emerges from this slop!

If you have any questions or need advice, please feel free to reach out to me here.

Bob O’Hearn

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